While my siblings and cousins fought over the big ticket items, I chose her silver egg scissors with matching egg cups, a St. Anthony statue, a set of pewter wall sconces and candle holders, and a couple of candle douters (snuffers).

I always remember my grandmother using her douters to extinguish the candles. She would make a wish each time she put a light out. It was clean, effortless, and did not leave any lingering odors. But most importantly, it was the “proper” way to do it.

My favorite douter is the one she used often, which is made of silver and shaped like a horn. It was her also her favorite piece because it reminded her of a time when life was simple, the pace wasn’t chaotic, and people were polite to each other.

Whenever I use the douter, I make myself a wish as well.